27 March 2013
Any time two people are in love, they're going to argue. Whether it's about finances, sex, or the kids, there will be disagreements. Being thousands of miles apart from one another certainly doesn't make them any easier.
Healthy communication has a lot of factors. Patience, tone, effort, time, etc.
Before you get into an argument, ask yourself whether what they were doing was done in an effort to hurt your feelings. If yes, absolutely pursue it. People in love do not seek to hurt their partners and you deserve more respect than that. If no, think about whether it's worth the hassle.
When you do get into an argument, try to stay on point. Don't bring up anything from previous arguments, don't name call, don't try to gain leverage. It's not a contest.
Think of the desired outcome before putting anything into the argument. The argument will never end until you know at what point you will be satisfied.
Listen. We're not always right. As much as we want to be right, sometimes we're just not. Listen to how the other side feels and take into consideration their thoughts and feelings, as you would want them to do to yours.
And most importantly, don't accept less respect than you deserve. Too often we back down because we feel guilty. They're gone, they're in a war, they're stressed. All of that is true, but YOU are still their wife, fiance, girlfriend, etc. and you continue to deserve the same respect as always. There is no excuse for being disrespected, so don't accept it.